Jackie Pilossoph from Divorced Girl Smiling recently wrote a post for women considering dating men who are “separated,” and we thought we’d share it here for any of you Corona and Riverside ladies in this predicament.
You went through the divorce process and stayed single throughout, and now that you’re final free you want to date again. You’re attracted to a guy (or girl) who’s separated. Is it ok to date him or not?
Pilossoph believes that people who are “separated” can be in very different places. Each situation is unique. Don’t be too quick to turn someone down because they’re still technically married, but be careful.
Here are a few things to consider:
Is this person emotionally ready to date? People who are recently separated and people who have been “single” for two years are in a very different state of life. So many simply don’t want to (or can’t) go through the divorce process yet, others are still emotionally attached to their spouse.
Is the person living with their spouse still? You need to carefully consider if this will bother you or not.
The couple may end up back together. No matter how “separated” they are, it’s still much more likely and easy to reignite a flame of someone who is separate vs divorced. You’ll need to come to terms with that.
The person hasn’t experienced the emotional trials of divorce. If you’re hoping he can relate to your divorce struggles, think again.Overall, there is no easy equation to determine if you should date someone who’s separated. But make sure to assess the situation truthfully and realize what you’re getting yourself into.
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