A divorce can be an overwhelming experience, and the last thing you want to worry about is what not to do. However, people make mistakes all the time and it is best to educate yourself and having a great legal team by your side to help guide you along the way is what we are here for. Hopefully, after reading this you will be able to learn about some big mistakes people often make during the divorce process and how to avoid those in futures to come.

Making decisions without fully understanding the implications is a common mistake spouses tend to make. When you file for a divorce, it is important that you understand that assets will have to be divided among both spouses evenly. If you have children, the responsibilities of providing for them will have to be delegated, etc. If you do not fully understand and have control through every step of your divorce, those are permanent decisions you will have to live with.

Beyond that, seven of the worst divorce mistakes to make include the following:

1. Forcing your children to take your side – never use your children as pawns in the process; always remind them that both parents love them
2. Don’t be short-sighted about things, such as the television of DVD collection
3. Your attorney is not your therapist – keep in mind the money you are spending while you complain to him or her
4. Don’t be nonchalant when it comes to your divorce – no need to call your attorney hourly or even daily, but it’s good to stay on top of your case in a reasonable manner. Rather than constant calls, request a weekly e-mail update.
5. Don’t scratch mediation off your list – give it a try; what do you have to lose? You may be able to settle all of your issues without a judge doing it for you.
6. Never bad-mouth your spouse to your children – this person will always be your children’s mom or dad – regardless of your relationship with that person.
7. Rebound relationships are not healthy – even though you feel you need the comfort or emotional connection with another party, refrain because you are not ready to give another person what they deserve in a relationship.

Dvorce is one of the most common issues in Family Law. It can be simple, fast, and amicable or contentious, complicated, and lengthy. Each divorce has its own circumstances and factors to deal with. If you are thinking about a divorce in Southern California, you will want a family attorney who has experience in helping spouses resolve their differences and who can represent you in the courtroom should your case be required to go to trial. At the family law offices of Holstrom, Block & Parke you will find divorce attorneys who are fully versed in all of the legal aspects of divorce and will ensure that your legal rights are fully protected and that your voice is heard. Call us today!